The Things We Do To Find Love...

Wow!

I know I haven't been blogging much lately, but I had to share:

Most of you are aware of my love life and how scarce and random it is. Well I decided going to clubs/bars and online dating is not enough. I would need more drastic measures if I'm gonna find someone who ACTUALLY wants to be with me.

I decided to try a matchmaking service. I found one through Google that wasn't too far from where I live. I interviewed with one of their employees over the phone. She was cool, we chatted and everything and she asked if I could come in for a consultation. I don't like to waste people's time (most of all mine) and I know I'm not by any means financial well off enough to say "money is no object". SO I asked her how much the service costs. She gave me the song and dance about how they customize it to the person and if you really want it, they'll tailor it to your needs, blah blah blah. So I thought okay, maybe it'll be like $500. Still don't really wanna pay that much, but it may be worth it, so I'll go in for the consultation.

I leave work and head over to the place. i get a voicemail from them saying "Oh, it's after seven, so it's okay for you to park in the garage below.", cool.

So I got down to the parking garage, where an attendant is standing there getting the tickets for the drivers. he hands me mine and I say "It's after seven, so I won't have to pay for parking right?" and he says "No, you do, It's $7 every half hour." Whoa whoa whoa, so I pull forward and pull over to a spot where I call the company I'm there to see.

Me: They're saying it's going to cost $28 to park

Them: Oh no, we'll validate you, just get your parking ticket!

Me: Okay!

So I proceed to park. I go upstairs and check in with security. He tells me to go to the first elevator. I get in the elevator and the floor I need to go on is already pushed. There's no one in the elevator, he did it from the security desk! So now I'm thinking these people are serious if they can afford a suite in a place like this, it's gotta be expensive! But I keep on truckin'!

I make my way there and the woman who I consult with is cool. She's nice, she's got good stuff to say, it's seems all good. Then we get to how much membership is. She's not hearing me about not knowing if I have the money. Literally she kept saying she was confused, like it didn't compute that I didn't have $500 to PUT DOWN (NOT pay in full!) on this membership. They were gonna give me the lowest costing one and let me put money down then make payments. $1500 was a lot, but from what she told me, it almost seemed worth a shot, so I was seriously going to consider it. But I could tell she was a little annoyed that I wasn't going to join right then and there. I'm sorry but I don't just have $1500 lying around to spend on whatever, this was something I would have to think about, but I was going to think about it!

So I leave and get to my car. I pull up to the gate to leave and put in my ticket. It says I have to pay $28, WTH??! So I pull back out and go back upstairs to try and catch her before she leaves. I call the number, i get their voicemail. I call and call. I finally get a person. She says she'll try to get the woman I spoke with. I'm already almost in tears cuz this is not boding well for me. She gets back on the phone:

Woman: She says she didn't validate because we only validate for members. So if you had bought the membership, we would have validated!

SERIOUSLY?!?! What the hell?!? Don't panic!

Me: They didn't tell me that.

Woman: They didn't? I always end with only if you buy a membership.

Me: Well they did not.

Woman: WHo did you speak to?

Me: "so-and-so" and "so-and-so"

Woman: I'm their manager, they should have said something. Well I'm sorry, there's nothing I can do.

Me: Okay.

So I'm pissed at this point. my problem is, when I get pissed I also cry. If I'm this upset where I have to actually say something or demand something, I get very teary which frustrates the heck out of me! So I'm trying to figure out what to do. I get back in my car and call my mom so she can help me to calm down.

I drive to the gate again (while on the phone with her). I press the button to speak with someone.

Me: I can't get out.

Security: You have to pay.

Me: i don't have any way to pay.

Security: Stand by.

(pause)

Security: Yeah, there's nothing we can do, you can call someone and ask them to bring you money.

Oh Heeeeellllll no!

Me: So I just have to sit here all night?

Security; Stand by.

(Pause)

Supervisor comes out with a total attitude.

Me: I don't have money to pay (I didn't have $28 to pay for parking that I was not expecting to have to pay), they told me I wouldn't have to pay for parking.

Supervisor: Well that's not our problem.

Me: So I could just sit in here all night?

Supervisor: Yeah, you can find a spot and park over there. But you need to move because people behind you need to get out.

Oh. My. God. If I wasn't thinking about how crappy it would be for those people to be stuck cuz I was having issues, I would not have budged. But I thought about how upset i would be if I got off worked and just wanted to go home and had to deal with this, so I moved to let other people out.

I was still on the phone with my mom. I thought about just paying the money, but then i thought, no this is ridiculous. This isn't my fault, why should I have to pay. So i was preparing in my mind to spend the night in the parking garage. By now my mom had called my dad and told me he was on his way. He was gonna raise a fuss! He was in the car driving to where I was (I love my parents!). So he's on the phone with me, telling em to just block the way. And I told him I wasn't strong enough for that, I would just end up moving. Then he said to wait til he got there.

I'm waiting for him to get there, when this car pulls up to leave, and the woman driving looks at me and asks if I'm okay. I tell her they won't let me out and I don't have validation. She asks if I'm "Genellyn". I say yeah and she says she's the woman I had been talking to before about the validation. Then she says she'll get me out. So she goes to the intercom and they say they can't let me out cuz the machine won't let them or something. Then she comes back and she says she will pay for me to get out. So I said thank you and she said "if someone asks you for something, you gotta do it!"

It was nice of her, because she could have let me sit there, but I was thinking, it seemed appropriate since it was her company that got me into the situation. And she can be reimbursed. Then she said "And don't feel like you have to go with our service just because I'm doing this!"

Uhhh, yeah like that was what I was gonna do....I had already told her I wasn't going to go with their service because of this. This is a really crappy way to treat a potential client.

So I flew out of there like a bat out of hell and made my way home. My dad went back home, he wouldn't get off the phone til I was out of there, and we ended up talking til I got home.

So that was my night. How was yours?

2010: A Year Of Promise!

It's a brand new year! A brand new start!

Hopefully this year I can get back into the swing of blogging! I'm starting this year a whole lot different than I started 2009. I'm living on my own, I have a new job, new friends (and old!:-))...it's a little crazy to think about how far I've come in a year.

Now if I can just juggle it all appropriately, I'll be golden!

I've been enjoying living in my apartment with my brother. It's been pretty awesome. It's very liberating and I love the area. I'm going to write a blog about it one of these days, i even took pics to post, tee hee.

If there's one thing I learned this year and actually began to live by, it's that you can't sit and wait for things to happen! you have to figure out what you want and go get it! You can't sit around wishing, hoping and praying. I mean of course praying always helps, but you have to be proactive about achieving goals and dreams. I was tired of sitting around and waiting for things to happen, and this last year, I went out and got what I wanted! It wasn't luck, it didn't just happen to me, everything that I've accomplished I went out to get!

I believe your attitude towards life means everything. You have to be positive, pick yourself up and get back on the horse! You won't always succeed in every single endeavor but it makes the one you do succeed in even better!


New Year's resolutions are always a let down, I try to live day by day rather than set my self up for a 365 Day promise! That's hard! Does anyone make NY resolutions anymore?

Instead of a resolution, I encourage you to make 2010 your year! Dont; just let it happen to you, make 2010 happen for you!

It's All Gravy!

Happy Thanksgiving!!

I know I'm late, but what are you gonna do? How was everyone's holiday?

It's been crazy getting settle into everything, Between soccer class, acting class, the holidays, and getting ready to start my new job, I feel like I haven't had a minute!


So, I started my new job today! I don't think I've mentioned this at all. I am in a new position with the same company I've been working for for the last year and a half. I'm excited, it's gonna be good. I get to train with my current manager. She's teaching me the ropes. We're friends outside of work, so it makes training even better!

My acting class has been going well. My partner and I are doing our last runthrough for our last scene on Thursday, which should be really good. We've worked pretty hard on it. Fingers crossed! Afterward, we're going to the Turtle Races:-)

SP text me last week, because he saw me driving. We chatted for a bit, then I let the conversation go. He replied "yup" to something I said, and I didn't respond. I decided I'm tired of being the one waiting for the guy to say something. I'll keep the ball in my court for a little while thank you. Not that he was trying to talk to me like that again, but I'm always practicing!

My friend Dawn and I watched Gross Pointe Blank tonight, and we were marveling at the awesomness of Minnie Driver's character. She's so amazing. The way she treats John Cusak is classic! She really couldn't care less about hurting his feelings, or what he thinks of her if she does one thing or another. I truly, truly want to be able to be like her. But the key is, you can't just ACT like that, it has to be truly what you feel. I have to stop caring about guys and what they think. I need to be about me (not in the completely conceited sense), I need to be mre concerned about how I feel and how I should and want to be treated rather than about how they feel or what they think. And it's gonna have to be genuine, not just something I'm doing to get a specific result. If I watch Gross Pointe Blank and He's Just Not That Into You at least once a month, I think I'll be okay!

I totally filled my car with radiator fluid and oil, by myself (well, with my dad on the phone, but whatever!). A mechanic tried to swindle me, so I just took matters into my own hands! He said my car just needed "basic maintenance" which would cost $200-$300!!! How in the world is that basic?!? When he went to look under my hood, I got out of my car to watch him, just in case he tried to pull something funny. He didn't do anything that I saw, he said my spark plugs were looking good. Then I talked to my dad after I left and he asked if the guy had taken anything out, I said no, and he said you can't check spark plugs without taking them out!!! WTH?!? That's why mechanics have a bad reputation! I hate being a woman who doesn't know squat about cars....maybe I'll take an auto shop class next semester....

Jeremy is doing much better. He's eating, talking, laughing. But his brain still hasn't recovered fully. He's moody and can get really irritable, so he still needs prayer, if you think about him! Thank you to everyone who has kept him in mind!


I'll be updating more often now that the dust has settled!

Question: What was one thing you were really Thankful for?

Until next time!

I'm Baaaaacckkk!!! (My First Vlog!!)

Hello My Wonderful Blog and All of My Readers (Those who have stuck around!),

Oh how I have missed you! My brother and I FINALLY got internet in the apt, so I'll be blogging regularly again!

It's been crazy getting settled, but I love it! I have my own full bed now, and a REALLY cute theme in my bathroom! I just got the shower curtain today in the mail. It's I may post a pic once I have it all the way I want it!

Here's a Vlog as a celebration of my return!

Untitled from Genellyn Driver on Vimeo.

Jeremy Update! from Genellyn Driver on Vimeo.

CampFire Network: eQ

Jennie at Generation You has started this idea of The Campfire Network in which you swap thought provoking questions with a fellow blogger. The intention is to break the mold of your traditional blogging and engage in some candid conversations with your readers. Reveal as much or as little as you wish, but the posts tend to be more relatable and more robust when you open up. In turn, pick some other bloggers you want to swap questions with. No promises that they will open up. Remember, sharing stories around a campfire often times gets emotional and ends up with someone killing the vibe by crying, stomping off into the woods or wanting to fight someone.


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My girl eQ over at Misguided Me and I have swapped questions. I asked her a few random, fun questions and she did the same for me. She's an awesome chick, and I would definitely recommend reading her blog, if not subscribing! She's a fun and interesting read!

Welcome to any visitor's from Misguided Me!! I think you'll enjoy her answers!! Please comment and let me know you came over!

If you would like to swap questions with me, let me know! It's fun and a good way to cross audiences and find cool new blogs!!

(See my answers to eQ's questions here)
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Gen: What are you most afraid of not accomplishing in your life?

eQ: I am afraid of not making my family proud. It is easy to assume that they are. But I rarely feel like that is the case. I know my success in life (in their eyes) isn’t measured by how much money I make or the job I have or if I am married and have kids. I know that they will be proud of me if I just go out there and try. But I feel some pressure sometimes, since both of my siblings are married and have kids and good careers. I sometimes think they are waiting around for me to do the same. I just don’t want them to feel sorry for me. That would be the worst.




Gen: What do you like best about yourself?

eQ: Physically? I like my wrists. They are dainty and feminine. As Far as in my character is concerned I would have to go with the fact that I try to keep the drama in my life at a minimum. I am an avid believer that you need to flush the negativity out of your life before you truly feel at peace. Now that doesn’t mean that I myself am this perfect balancing act. I just think you need to stop letting the losers in your life get under your skin. Fuck them. The perpetual whiner, the slack ass roommate, the negative Nancy, the cheating BF/GF, the condescending parents. You know who they are in your life. Get rid of them, life is too short to be caught up in someone else’s drama. Now when I say “get rid of” I don’t mean hire a hit man or go stabbing them in the middle of the night. I mean either minimize interaction with them or stop communicating with them. Just and FYI



Gen: 3 Guilty pleasures?

eQ: This is a good question because as I am pondering what my guilty pleasures are I am smiling and slightly salivating. Mmmm, guilty pleasures….

1. Really expensive shoes. If I were wealthy I would have a serious shoe problem. Thankfully I can’t afford them. But that doesn’t stop me from going to Saks to sit in the midst of shoetopia. I get a little high when I am there.

2. Tattoos. I have 9. Collected over the past 13 years. I am in the process of removing 2 but not before I add another one on my back, which will cost around $450. They are addicting. I swear they put something in the ink!

3. Chocolate. This is an obvious one. All my friends and family know this about myself. Chocolate brownies, chocolate cake, little Cadbury eggs, Hershey kisses, Reese’s peanut butter cups, chocolate ice cream, chocolate covered anything. Gimme!



Gen: What is your favorite thing about being in a relationship, what is your least favorite?

eQ: One of the best things about a relationship for me is sharing my life with someone. I have a person who knows every little nuance about me. He knows how to manage me, anticipate my moods, to listen and give advice. I have a travel buddy and a snuggle partner. We are best pals. We are very opposite but I think that’s part of the magic.

My least favorite thing is trying to manage my expectations of him. I want to believe that he will change and adapt over the years. This may be true in some instances, but at the core you have to accept your mate on all levels the way they come. You can’t ever “expect” things from your mate if you do you are in for a world of hurt. Expectations just lead to frustrations. This is the hardest thing for people (especially woman) to understand of a relationship.

Boys Will Be Boys

Okay, so remember the guy I was texting with, SP? Well my friend Christina and I went to that bar again on Thursday, and boy was it good times!

I need to back to two weeks ago first though:

Two weeks ago...

Christina and I were at the bar, and we decided to hang out where all the guys who work there stand around (including SP). So we're sitting down, and they all come over to where we are. I'm already friends with BP (another guy), and they know we go there pretty regularly, so they know who were are. Christina and I never talk a lot when we are around a lot of guys, we just like to sit and listen, which is why I think they like being around us, because we're not trying to be the center of attention and we don't talk too much. Guys are hilarious if you just let them talk. So the guys are all bagging on each other and talking smack and Christina and I are just cracking up at what they're saying. There was one guy that was new, and we'll call him Envy (it makes sense to me, that's all that matters!), and he is hot!! Gorgeous, sexy voice, the works, and Christina and I had noticed him the time before when we were there, and he had been introduced, but that was about it. So this night, we're all together, and the guys are making a lot of jokes and I am just laughing like crazy. They were really funny,, it wasn't fake! I'm sitting next to Envy, and he's standing. He looks down at me while I'm laughing, then he tells USC (another one of the guys, not his real name) "She has a gorgeous smile", and he then stares at me while I'm laughing, making me extremely self-conscious. SP is not outside with us, he's inside drinking.

Envy starts talking about golf and how good he is at it. He says he's good because of his "core" and starts holding his abs. I'm thinking, oh nice, so I say "How's that again?" and he presses his abs again, so I press his abs (very nice!). Then I press on my abs and he starts pressing my abs, and right at that moment, SP comes and is standing there, watching him press my abs. And he just beelines straight for me and starts poking me, so Envy stops and I end up wrestling with SP, cuz he keeps trying to poke me. As if he's trying to mark his territory. But I'm thinking "Um, you passed on this son!". So even though, he was the one who said he didn't want to go out with me, he still gets all jealous about me talking to another guy. Makes no sense!


Tues/Wednesday...

I was on the set of a Disney Original Movie and there were a lot of good-looking background on this set, which hardly ever happens. There were also a lot of good-looking crew, which is even more rare. I had been chatting and being friendly with a few of the crew guys, but just being nice, I wasn't interested in them. They were too old for me, and I wasn't attracted to them. So we had been chatting all day, and it was getting late when one of the guys I had been talking to was sitting next to me and he asked me out. I was so irritated! I know this sounds mean, but given my history I was just pissed that I get asked out by older guys who I have zero interest in, but guys my age won't give me a second look. It was just so annoying. I have shallow issues sometimes, leave me alone!

Thursday (two weeks from above)...

I asked Christina if she wanted to go to the bar and she said she had to work, so she couldn't. I contemplated going alone, but I thought better of it and said I'll just not go this week. So I just throw on a T-Shirt, jeans, and some flats and head to my acting class. On my way to class, Christina says she can go to the bar! I'm happy we can go, but I'm also thinking crap! I do not look cute at all! My hairs is just thrown into a ponytail, and I'm not dressed very nicely. Well, whatever, I want to go out, so I say screw it, I'll just go looking like this, whatevs! I threw a little hat on and a jacket and we headed to the bar.

We get there and watch the guys do their thing. They had been talking to us while working and giving us hugs, saying hi. Envy saw me and messed with my hat. I felt quite liberated not being in cute clothes. I could move around more and felt a little more relaxed. I mean no one was about to hit on me, so I felt no need to act cool or try to look cute. I kinda liked it. So when the guys finished working, again they came to where we were. USC came over and gave me an a-frame hug. Then we slowly got closer, then I ended up putting my leg around him, we were cracking up. Then I gave Envy a hug and he gave Christina a hug, then came back over to where I was and put his arm around my waist, and was posted there! I was wondering if he thought I was holding on to him, but whenever he took his arm away to do something, he would put it right back around my waist. I was incredibly giddy about this, but I was cool on the outside. I couldn't believe this hot guy was not only standing next to me, but had his arm around my waist, and I wasn't even looking the best. What was going on?!?

Then Envy buys me and Christina drinks. I finish mine and take the cherry out and the stem is sticking out. USC takes the stem off then asks if I can tie it in a knot. I say it's too short, but he's not hearing it and they all say I have to tie it in a knot with my mouth. Then USC says, "if you tie it in a knot, you get to make-out with Envy". Then USC grabs Christina's cherry out of her drink and he says "If I tie mine first, you have to make out with Envy", and Christina and I look at each other like "That's a win-win situation!", haha. Then SP comes over and he asks what's going on, and USC says "we're seeing who can tie a knot, and then she has to make out with Envy", at this point I couldn't look at SP. But I could feel him looking at me, and he did not like the terms of this bet. I could tell he was kinda pissed. Then Envy says, "They say if you can tie a knot in a cherry stem, you're a good kisser." Again, can't look at SP, then Envy says "There's only one way to find out if I'm a good kisser." I really want to stop talking about this with SP there, because I have kissed him and it's just completely awkward!

The rest of the night is pretty much the same, but Envy never really takes his hands off of me. By the end, he was standing behind me with his hands on my waist, which was just cloud nine for me. I love touch, and when I was a teenager, I thought I was absolutely repulsive to guys and no guy would ever want to touch me or want me to touch him. Seriously, this is how I thought of myself. So now, whenever a guy touches me for any reason, it really means the world to me! It's the best feeling in the world! Even if it's just a guy friend, resting his arm on my shoulder...It's not all sexual.

There was a little more to the story, but you know my superstitions, so I'll wait and see what happens this week;-)

Good Things

Hey All!!

Okay, so I finally have my hands on a real computer with real internet! Yay!! I miss blogging something terrible! But it's really hard to write a good post on a phone, let me tell ya!

So, you all know that I have moved out with my brother and we are now getting settled into our place. My room is a mess, but guess what, it's mine!! Lol. I just have a lot of stuff to unpack, but I'm so very excited! I actually have a place to put everything! I've never had my own room before, as you know, and it's really quite fantastic. As far as decorating it's slightly overwhelming though. I have no idea how I want to place things or what I want to put up! Not that I'll have money for any of that right now!

I had my first article post on Every Girl Blog about online dating, and it got a lot of responses! It was fun to write, and I can't wait to do my follow up articles, you should check it out!


If you've been reading, you know about my friend Jeremy and his accident. So many of you have been praying for him and being so supportive and I thank you soo much! Well, he is recovering very well! Yesterday, his dad asked him to hold is baseball for certain pitches and he did it exactly right! So, it's looking good, praise God!! We continue to pray for him and ask for continued healing and complete recovery!!

That's all for now! I have some more juicy news, but I'll save that post for Monday!

On My Own (Sort of :-P)

Hey Blogsters!

It's been a while! Good to see ya, glad you came to say hi!

If you've been following my posts, you know about my friend Jeremy and his accident. Well he is progressing quite well. It started last week, when his nose was twitching, and he scratched it! I've never been so happy to hear about anyone scratching themselves, lol. Now he is watching TV, and he's even speaking through gestures and sign language! And he hasn't even started rehab yet! We're all so excited to see what God is going to do for Jeremy, thanks again to everyone who has been praying and thinking about him and his family! It has all been a blessing!



In other news: I'm. Writing this blog from my phone cuz I don't have internet at home. Why don't I have internet? Cuz my brother and I have our own apartment! That's right it finally happened, we did it! It's really fantastic. We didn't end up with. The other place I showed you, but it's still nice! Hopefully I can post pics soon. It's so late and I'm exhausted, I'll try to blog again soon.


My friend EQ and I are doing CFN questions, and she has posted my answers to her questions on her blog Misguided Me, go check it out!

For I Know The Plans I Have For You

Hey everyone!

Things have been a little crazy for me lately, which why I haven't blogged. My last post was about my friend Jeremy and his accident, asking for prayers! boy did you guys come through! I had so many positive and encouraging responses, and I am so grateful for all of them!

My mom and I went to AZ last week to visit Jeremy and his family. We mostly hung out with is family in the ICU waiting room all day, then went back to the hotel and did it all over again the next day. I didn't mind at all, that was what we went for. Jeremy was still in a medically induced coma, but they let us go see him in his room. It was surreal to see my friend lying in the hospital bed. I would pray for him while I stood in the door. There was good news followed by bad news. When one thing was better, another issue would come up. I was able to go see him once or twice a day. The night before my mom and I headed back to CA, I went to see him for the last time in what would be a while, and I started to cry. It always amazes me the things that make me cry. I don't really cry a lot and I'm usually pretty strong and hold myself together. I hadn't cried the entire time we had been there. But I think knowing that I wouldn't get to see him again for a while, until we could make it back out there, it just hit me. That and seeing him lying in a hospital bed just broke my heart.

But I know the Lord has a plan for him. He has Jeremy in His hands and His will will be done.

I really love Jeremy and his family, they mean so much to me, and I'm reminded of that every time I spend time with them.

All of your prayers and encouragement means so much to me! And I am so grateful! Since you were all so sincere, I wanted to give you the update from yesterday. Jeremy has opened his eyes. He's not responsive yet though, but he's off of medications and they are transferring him to another medical center tomorrow. He still needs a lot of prayer, but what you guys have done already has helped!

Again, thank you all so much! I am going to try to blog again tomorrow, I just haven't felt like anything I have to say about my life is quite as important as what has been going on with him. Everything else just seems to fall by the way side.Since he's on the road to recovery, maybe I can begin to write a little more again. But I can't promise I won't be saying a prayer for him in my blogs or that I will cease asking for prayer!

Question: Do you or have you ever felt like your blogs really pale in comparison to greater things happening in the world?

Life Goes On

Hey all,

A lot has happened this weekend. I had a little bit of a breakdown on Saturday about being single, virgin, etc. It was very sad, but it was the way I felt (feel?). My whole thought process and everything was brought to a screeching halt on Sunday morning when I found out one of my closest friends was in a very bad accident on Saturday night. So where I would normally breakdown my weekend for you, I'm simply going to ask that you pray for my friend:



His name is Jeremy. He has no broken bones, but he has trauma to his brain. He and his fmaily need all the prayer they can get! We are praying for complete recovery! Just send a little prayer up when you think about him. Thank you sooo much!