The Things We Do To Find Love...

Wow!

I know I haven't been blogging much lately, but I had to share:

Most of you are aware of my love life and how scarce and random it is. Well I decided going to clubs/bars and online dating is not enough. I would need more drastic measures if I'm gonna find someone who ACTUALLY wants to be with me.

I decided to try a matchmaking service. I found one through Google that wasn't too far from where I live. I interviewed with one of their employees over the phone. She was cool, we chatted and everything and she asked if I could come in for a consultation. I don't like to waste people's time (most of all mine) and I know I'm not by any means financial well off enough to say "money is no object". SO I asked her how much the service costs. She gave me the song and dance about how they customize it to the person and if you really want it, they'll tailor it to your needs, blah blah blah. So I thought okay, maybe it'll be like $500. Still don't really wanna pay that much, but it may be worth it, so I'll go in for the consultation.

I leave work and head over to the place. i get a voicemail from them saying "Oh, it's after seven, so it's okay for you to park in the garage below.", cool.

So I got down to the parking garage, where an attendant is standing there getting the tickets for the drivers. he hands me mine and I say "It's after seven, so I won't have to pay for parking right?" and he says "No, you do, It's $7 every half hour." Whoa whoa whoa, so I pull forward and pull over to a spot where I call the company I'm there to see.

Me: They're saying it's going to cost $28 to park

Them: Oh no, we'll validate you, just get your parking ticket!

Me: Okay!

So I proceed to park. I go upstairs and check in with security. He tells me to go to the first elevator. I get in the elevator and the floor I need to go on is already pushed. There's no one in the elevator, he did it from the security desk! So now I'm thinking these people are serious if they can afford a suite in a place like this, it's gotta be expensive! But I keep on truckin'!

I make my way there and the woman who I consult with is cool. She's nice, she's got good stuff to say, it's seems all good. Then we get to how much membership is. She's not hearing me about not knowing if I have the money. Literally she kept saying she was confused, like it didn't compute that I didn't have $500 to PUT DOWN (NOT pay in full!) on this membership. They were gonna give me the lowest costing one and let me put money down then make payments. $1500 was a lot, but from what she told me, it almost seemed worth a shot, so I was seriously going to consider it. But I could tell she was a little annoyed that I wasn't going to join right then and there. I'm sorry but I don't just have $1500 lying around to spend on whatever, this was something I would have to think about, but I was going to think about it!

So I leave and get to my car. I pull up to the gate to leave and put in my ticket. It says I have to pay $28, WTH??! So I pull back out and go back upstairs to try and catch her before she leaves. I call the number, i get their voicemail. I call and call. I finally get a person. She says she'll try to get the woman I spoke with. I'm already almost in tears cuz this is not boding well for me. She gets back on the phone:

Woman: She says she didn't validate because we only validate for members. So if you had bought the membership, we would have validated!

SERIOUSLY?!?! What the hell?!? Don't panic!

Me: They didn't tell me that.

Woman: They didn't? I always end with only if you buy a membership.

Me: Well they did not.

Woman: WHo did you speak to?

Me: "so-and-so" and "so-and-so"

Woman: I'm their manager, they should have said something. Well I'm sorry, there's nothing I can do.

Me: Okay.

So I'm pissed at this point. my problem is, when I get pissed I also cry. If I'm this upset where I have to actually say something or demand something, I get very teary which frustrates the heck out of me! So I'm trying to figure out what to do. I get back in my car and call my mom so she can help me to calm down.

I drive to the gate again (while on the phone with her). I press the button to speak with someone.

Me: I can't get out.

Security: You have to pay.

Me: i don't have any way to pay.

Security: Stand by.

(pause)

Security: Yeah, there's nothing we can do, you can call someone and ask them to bring you money.

Oh Heeeeellllll no!

Me: So I just have to sit here all night?

Security; Stand by.

(Pause)

Supervisor comes out with a total attitude.

Me: I don't have money to pay (I didn't have $28 to pay for parking that I was not expecting to have to pay), they told me I wouldn't have to pay for parking.

Supervisor: Well that's not our problem.

Me: So I could just sit in here all night?

Supervisor: Yeah, you can find a spot and park over there. But you need to move because people behind you need to get out.

Oh. My. God. If I wasn't thinking about how crappy it would be for those people to be stuck cuz I was having issues, I would not have budged. But I thought about how upset i would be if I got off worked and just wanted to go home and had to deal with this, so I moved to let other people out.

I was still on the phone with my mom. I thought about just paying the money, but then i thought, no this is ridiculous. This isn't my fault, why should I have to pay. So i was preparing in my mind to spend the night in the parking garage. By now my mom had called my dad and told me he was on his way. He was gonna raise a fuss! He was in the car driving to where I was (I love my parents!). So he's on the phone with me, telling em to just block the way. And I told him I wasn't strong enough for that, I would just end up moving. Then he said to wait til he got there.

I'm waiting for him to get there, when this car pulls up to leave, and the woman driving looks at me and asks if I'm okay. I tell her they won't let me out and I don't have validation. She asks if I'm "Genellyn". I say yeah and she says she's the woman I had been talking to before about the validation. Then she says she'll get me out. So she goes to the intercom and they say they can't let me out cuz the machine won't let them or something. Then she comes back and she says she will pay for me to get out. So I said thank you and she said "if someone asks you for something, you gotta do it!"

It was nice of her, because she could have let me sit there, but I was thinking, it seemed appropriate since it was her company that got me into the situation. And she can be reimbursed. Then she said "And don't feel like you have to go with our service just because I'm doing this!"

Uhhh, yeah like that was what I was gonna do....I had already told her I wasn't going to go with their service because of this. This is a really crappy way to treat a potential client.

So I flew out of there like a bat out of hell and made my way home. My dad went back home, he wouldn't get off the phone til I was out of there, and we ended up talking til I got home.

So that was my night. How was yours?

A Day At The Spa!

I was supposed to be in Vegas this weekend, but all my friends bailed on me. So I decided to treat myself to a day at the Burke Williams spa. I told my mom I was going so she decided to join me.

After the tour, we were shown to the lockers which were very nice. We changed and got into our robes and slippers.

It's funny because I really don't have issues being undressed in front of people, but I always cover up for their sakes! I mean I understand we are all women, but I'm sure no one wants to see me naked, cuz I don't want to see anyone else naked!!

We started with a 25-minute massage...Oh.My.Gosh. It was amazing! I've never in my life had a professional massage before today, just small ones from friends. I will have to recommend that if you have not had a professional massage, get one! 25 minutes was no where near long enough.

When we finished that we had the whole spa to explore. They had every single amenity you could think of. There was lemonade, water, and fruit for snacking. They had towels everywhere and slices of cucumber to put over your eyes. Then we got up and went to the hot tub. That was nice, the water was extra hot, and they had face towels sitting in ice to keep cool. When we finished that, my mom and I went out to the atrium and relaxed for a bit, we both fell asleep.Then we headed inside we decided to stop in the quiet room. It was very....quiet. There were La-Z-Boys, blankets, and cucumber slices and water. I threw a blanket over me and slept some more. My mom left by the time I had gotten up.

When I got up, I went into the steam room. Wow! It was very steamy but the steam had eucalyptus in it. I felt extremely hydrated and my skin was loving every second of it! My mom said she had been in there earlier and a lady had sneezed in the steam room, so she left. Ewwww!! I mean I know sneezes sometimes just happen, but in a steam room? That's just gross...

We stayed in there for a while then headed to the showers. They had Skintimate shaving cream, razors, deaodorant spray, even shower caps! It was very indulging to have everything right at your finger tips. They seriously thought of everything.

I brought my own shampoo because I tried generic stuff at a spa once and my hair was like "what the hell are you doing?!?!?" it sucked any kind of moisture my hair had right out and I couldn't get it back to save my life, or rather my hair's life. I swore I would never do that again. Black girls hair just can't take the same stuff as everyone else's. I know our hair looks tough, but really it's fragile!

After that I changed and took my little bag to the vanity room. They had blow dryers, brushes (they cleaned), mirrors, cotton swabs, hair ties, hair sprays and even some aromatherapy cooling towels for when you get hot from blow-drying your hair. Like I said, everything! I brought my straightener so I could look decent when I left! Nothing like having a luxurious day only to look crappy when you leave. My face felt super soft from the steam room so I didn't dare gunk it up with make-up. Ijust threw on lipstick and mascara.

At the sinks, they had face moisturizer, mouth wash, and toner. We asked for toothbrushes and they gave us a couple. They had toothpaste already in the bristles,*sigh*. Seriously, little things like that are just icing on the cake.

This was such a wonderful experience, I am going to have to do it again. I wish I could do it twice a month, at least. I wonder if it would loose it's specialness though? It doesn't seem like it could. I could have spent the entire day in there with a good book and my Zune!

So if you have not yet treated yourself to a day at the spa, I would say go for it, as soon as possible!! Splurge, treat yourself, I'm sure you deserve it!